abortstigma:

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR FRIEND ADMITS THEY HAD AN ABORTION.  #abortstigma
-Asha

abortstigma:

WHAT TO DO IF YOUR FRIEND ADMITS THEY HAD AN ABORTION.
#abortstigma

-Asha

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ghostruto:

collaterlysisters:

[clipping because i’m sure you can infer the gist of blah blah “IM TRANSPHOBIC” blah blah “BIOLOgiCAL SEX” blah blah “SPeCIAL SNoCkFlALKeSS’]
hi im one of those doctor types you idiots keep using as an excuse to yell at trans people
every single thing you’ve said is incorrect, and you do not know what you are talking about
I may need to know what organs a patient does or does not have, their hormonal status and history of exposure, and even their karyotype. Ideas like “biological sex” can often imply a lot of this. In medicine, that isn’t good enough. We have to be able to catch exceptions, side-effects, sequelae, and anomalies that might affect only one in a million patients. Exceptions to any one or more elements of the “biological sex” paradigm are much, much, much, much more common than that.
You genuinely do not know a patient’s chromosomes until you’ve run an expensive test, and even then, who knows! they could be a mosaic. Whether this information is important, and when, and why, depends. It all completely depends. A gender/sex/whatever marker on a form is not and never will be important. No matter how you cut it, is and always will be a miniscule source of information. Frankly, by disclosing a trans background on this form, the OP has made it more diagnostically useful to a clinician than that form has ever been before - we trans people are statistically very uncommon and tend to encounter distinct hardships and challenges that are highly relevant to our medical needs. Even then, it would still be no substitute for actually interviewing the patient.
So that’s the other thing you House addicts don’t have a clue about. Good doctors do “give a flying fuck” about how the patient identifies, because a patient’s background is absolutely key to their health. Knowing a patient’s basic demographics can help me think about what may be more or less likely in terms of their care needs.
More importantly, it helps me treat my patient with respect. This is both the decent thing to do and an absolute minimum requirement for being able to get anything done. You sneering choads couldn’t cure a side of beef.

clip is mine.

ghostruto:

collaterlysisters:

[clipping because i’m sure you can infer the gist of blah blah “IM TRANSPHOBIC” blah blah “BIOLOgiCAL SEX” blah blah “SPeCIAL SNoCkFlALKeSS’]

hi im one of those doctor types you idiots keep using as an excuse to yell at trans people

every single thing you’ve said is incorrect, and you do not know what you are talking about

I may need to know what organs a patient does or does not have, their hormonal status and history of exposure, and even their karyotype. Ideas like “biological sex” can often imply a lot of this. In medicine, that isn’t good enough. We have to be able to catch exceptions, side-effects, sequelae, and anomalies that might affect only one in a million patients. Exceptions to any one or more elements of the “biological sex” paradigm are much, much, much, much more common than that.

You genuinely do not know a patient’s chromosomes until you’ve run an expensive test, and even then, who knows! they could be a mosaic. Whether this information is important, and when, and why, depends. It all completely depends. A gender/sex/whatever marker on a form is not and never will be important. No matter how you cut it, is and always will be a miniscule source of information. Frankly, by disclosing a trans background on this form, the OP has made it more diagnostically useful to a clinician than that form has ever been before - we trans people are statistically very uncommon and tend to encounter distinct hardships and challenges that are highly relevant to our medical needs. Even then, it would still be no substitute for actually interviewing the patient.

So that’s the other thing you House addicts don’t have a clue about. Good doctors do “give a flying fuck” about how the patient identifies, because a patient’s background is absolutely key to their health. Knowing a patient’s basic demographics can help me think about what may be more or less likely in terms of their care needs.

More importantly, it helps me treat my patient with respect. This is both the decent thing to do and an absolute minimum requirement for being able to get anything done. You sneering choads couldn’t cure a side of beef.

clip is mine.

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thisweekstights:

How selfish do you have to be to buy a dog that’s been bred in an incredibly cruel and unnatural way just because you like how it looks

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atticusharper:

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misandry-mermaid:

worldwar2chainz:

Good to know that I can brush my hair without threatening my masculinity

That brush doesn’t have bristles, it has BROstles. And they’re 100% boar, just like you and your buds when you’ve had a few too many brewskies, right my dudes?

misandry-mermaid:

worldwar2chainz:

Good to know that I can brush my hair without threatening my masculinity

That brush doesn’t have bristles, it has BROstles. And they’re 100% boar, just like you and your buds when you’ve had a few too many brewskies, right my dudes?

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DISMISSING THE PROTEST AGAINST "EXHIBIT B" AS CENSORSHIP IS SHUTTING DOWN THE VERY CONVERSATION ABOUT RACE THAT WAS INTENDED.

theasefountain:

The cancellation of the Barbican show “Exhibit B” has brought out a near unanimous closing of the ranks amongst self-appointed defenders of liberal arts. Only one view is acceptable, it seems, and any diversion from this position is being derided and dismissed.

Received…

I had the loveliest birthday weekend on the family farm, hence my lack of blogging. Grandma doesn’t’ have wifi. 

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

antilla-dean:

Why would “vaginal tightening” and “labia reduction” be something that female people would want to do of their own volition?
Vaginal “looseness” actually does not exist.  It is part and parcel of female shaming, plain and simple.  As usual, our own bodies, doing what they do either through childbirth or, GASP, aging, are actions that displease men and must be erased.  Even if the thing that men complain of doesn’t exist and may actually be HIS PROBLEM.  
I just can’t with the labia reduction surgery.  I just can’t.  It just kills me that something that is so gorgeously individual, so perfectly unique, is being tampered with because of male hubris.  It is infuriating.
It causes me pain when I see how much females hate themselves.

That’s depressing. And I have a vagina and a vulva, not a freakin’ rose garden between my legs. 
And some females have penises. 

No, females don’t have penises. That’s the male sex organ.
Focus on the fucking topic, or are we not allowed to talk about females without trotting out trans issues?
They have nothing to do with this.

I’m sorry, I wasn’t accusing you of anything. I’m just used to using the word female as an adjective to describe cis women and trans women.

But see, I’m arguing that female doesn’t refer to trans women.
If trans women were female, they wouldn’t be transitioning. They certainly don’t have to worry about labiaplasty.
I’m not trying to pick a fight, but I would like to know why you think this issue would affect trans women at all?

Oh, it’s not that I think it affects trans women. It’s just that on my blog, the language I use does equate female with both trans and cis women - I know that’s not the language used by everyone but I have trans women followers who do use it that way, so I added it out of respect for them. 
I think that there is an ongoing debate on what the best terms to use are, and I’m certainly not the expert, but I may as well keep my posts following what’s accepted in my circles, if you get me? 
Sorry if the tone came off as accusatory. 

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

antilla-dean:

Why would “vaginal tightening” and “labia reduction” be something that female people would want to do of their own volition?

Vaginal “looseness” actually does not exist.  It is part and parcel of female shaming, plain and simple.  As usual, our own bodies, doing what they do either through childbirth or, GASP, aging, are actions that displease men and must be erased.  Even if the thing that men complain of doesn’t exist and may actually be HIS PROBLEM.  

I just can’t with the labia reduction surgery.  I just can’t.  It just kills me that something that is so gorgeously individual, so perfectly unique, is being tampered with because of male hubris.  It is infuriating.

It causes me pain when I see how much females hate themselves.

That’s depressing. And I have a vagina and a vulva, not a freakin’ rose garden between my legs. 

And some females have penises. 

No, females don’t have penises. That’s the male sex organ.

Focus on the fucking topic, or are we not allowed to talk about females without trotting out trans issues?

They have nothing to do with this.

I’m sorry, I wasn’t accusing you of anything. I’m just used to using the word female as an adjective to describe cis women and trans women.

But see, I’m arguing that female doesn’t refer to trans women.

If trans women were female, they wouldn’t be transitioning. They certainly don’t have to worry about labiaplasty.

I’m not trying to pick a fight, but I would like to know why you think this issue would affect trans women at all?

Oh, it’s not that I think it affects trans women. It’s just that on my blog, the language I use does equate female with both trans and cis women - I know that’s not the language used by everyone but I have trans women followers who do use it that way, so I added it out of respect for them. 

I think that there is an ongoing debate on what the best terms to use are, and I’m certainly not the expert, but I may as well keep my posts following what’s accepted in my circles, if you get me? 

Sorry if the tone came off as accusatory. 

sugahwaatah:

white masculinity is so garbage they count moisturising their skin as feminine

A lot of white men have terrible skin and they know it and they’re too fragile to do anything about it. All I can say to them, is sorry for your cracked elbows. 

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Anonymous said: Thoughts on Malala winning?

thatsnotwatyourmomsaid:

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conclusion: Malala is amazing and Western civilization has yet again proven to be hypercritical ignorant uncompromising and evil. how very fitting for columbus day.

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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I will always reblog this. Always.

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So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

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yes

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Going out for birthday day drinks, can’t get yesterday’s eyeliner off: guess I’m going goth again. I’m pretty impressed with how tattoo-like this eyeliner is. 

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

antilla-dean:

Why would “vaginal tightening” and “labia reduction” be something that female people would want to do of their own volition?
Vaginal “looseness” actually does not exist.  It is part and parcel of female shaming, plain and simple.  As usual, our own bodies, doing what they do either through childbirth or, GASP, aging, are actions that displease men and must be erased.  Even if the thing that men complain of doesn’t exist and may actually be HIS PROBLEM.  
I just can’t with the labia reduction surgery.  I just can’t.  It just kills me that something that is so gorgeously individual, so perfectly unique, is being tampered with because of male hubris.  It is infuriating.
It causes me pain when I see how much females hate themselves.

That’s depressing. And I have a vagina and a vulva, not a freakin’ rose garden between my legs. 
And some females have penises. 

No, females don’t have penises. That’s the male sex organ.
Focus on the fucking topic, or are we not allowed to talk about females without trotting out trans issues?
They have nothing to do with this.

I’m sorry, I wasn’t accusing you of anything. I’m just used to using the word female as an adjective to describe cis women and trans women.

appropriately-inappropriate:

cantwontserve:

antilla-dean:

Why would “vaginal tightening” and “labia reduction” be something that female people would want to do of their own volition?

Vaginal “looseness” actually does not exist.  It is part and parcel of female shaming, plain and simple.  As usual, our own bodies, doing what they do either through childbirth or, GASP, aging, are actions that displease men and must be erased.  Even if the thing that men complain of doesn’t exist and may actually be HIS PROBLEM.  

I just can’t with the labia reduction surgery.  I just can’t.  It just kills me that something that is so gorgeously individual, so perfectly unique, is being tampered with because of male hubris.  It is infuriating.

It causes me pain when I see how much females hate themselves.

That’s depressing. And I have a vagina and a vulva, not a freakin’ rose garden between my legs. 

And some females have penises. 

No, females don’t have penises. That’s the male sex organ.

Focus on the fucking topic, or are we not allowed to talk about females without trotting out trans issues?

They have nothing to do with this.

I’m sorry, I wasn’t accusing you of anything. I’m just used to using the word female as an adjective to describe cis women and trans women.

Let’s help refugees thrive, not just survive

neil-gaiman:

PLEASE. 

Watch this. And reblog it. PLEASE.

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